What to look for

A sense of connection

Sometimes you’ll read a profile and something just lands. You might feel understood, or like the person is speaking your language. That feeling matters.

Feeling safe and comfortable

It’s okay to think about who you’d feel most at ease with. This isn’t about judgement or discrimination, it’s about what helps you open up and be yourself.

Their way of working

There are many different types of counselling, including CBT, person-centred therapy, psychodynamic therapy and integrative counselling. You don’t need to understand all of them in detail. Some therapists are more structured, others more open and exploratory. What matters most is whether their approach feels like something you could engage with.

Practical things

Things like online or in-person sessions, availability, cost and frequency all play a role. These don’t have to be perfect from the start, but it’s helpful if they feel manageable for you.

It’s okay to try and decide

Finding the right therapist can involve a bit of trial and error.

Many therapists offer a short initial phone or video call, which can be a helpful way to get a sense of how they are and whether you feel comfortable speaking with them.

If something doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to say no or keep looking. A good therapist will understand this. The process is about finding the right fit for you.

Professional standards

It can be helpful to check that your therapist is registered with a professional body such as the BACP, UKCP or COSCA. This means they are working within an ethical framework and have met certain training and practice standards.

Finding the right therapist is a personal process, and it’s okay to take your time with it. Be gentle with yourself, this can feel like a big step.

If you have any questions, you’re always welcome to get in touch.

Lucy